This past Sunday I taught from Genesis and had a blast. There is so much rich truth in God's Word, and we really need to get back into the Word to find the answers to life's questions. Who needs Dr. Ruth when you can get answers from the God who created us and ordained marriage?
Now the serpent was more crafty than any other beast of the field that the LORD God had made. He said to the woman, "Did God actually say, 'You shall not eat of any tree in the garden'?" And the woman said to the serpent, "We may eat of the fruit of the trees in the garden, but God said, 'You shall not eat of the fruit of the tree that is in the midst of the garden, neither shall you touch it, lest you die.'" But the serpent said to the woman, "You will not surely die. For God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil." and ate, and she also gave some to her husband who was with her,So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was to be desired to make one wise, she took of its fruit and he ate. Then the eyes of both were opened, and they knew that they were naked. And they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves loincloths. And they heard the sound of the LORD God walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and the man and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the LORD God among the trees of the garden. But the LORD God called to the man and said to him, "Where are you?" Genesis 3:1-9
Think about it. God made man, placed him in the most beautiful place the earth has ever known, brought him a perfect wife, and commanded him to be fruitful and multiply. The man and the woman were naked and were not ashamed. There were no 'issues' that they had to work through. Life was good for Adam and Eve. Every area of life.
What happened? How did Adam and Eve go from being "naked and not ashamed' to being embarrassed and covering themselves? What had effected their relationship and therefore their sexual relationship? The simple answer is sin.
There are some key things that really stand out to me in the text though.
First, Adam refused to be the spiritual leader in the first home, following Eve into sin rather than leading her away from the serpent. Years of pastoring and counseling couples in my ministry has proven to me that most issues in the home could be avoided or resolved if a husband would simply determine to be the spiritual leader in his home. Women don't get real excited about being with wimpy men. Most wives long for their husbands to be leaders in the home, if he is a Godly leader. Don't allow the world to define the roles of husband and wife in your marriage. God ordained marriage and therefore God defines marriage and the roles of it's participants.
Second, Adam continued to be a wimp by refusing to accept responsibility for his family. God comes in the cool of the day searching for Adam. Adam hides until God calls him out and asks what had changed. Adam quickly blames Eve and even God for his fall. The blame game never accomplishes anything and it sure doesn't do anything to spice things up in the romance department. Husbands who refuse to accept the responsibility of leading their homes and then sit back and criticize their wife or children, and blame them for everything that is wrong in the home are heading nowhere very fast.
Third, before God blessed Adam with a wife, He gave him a job naming the animals. Advice to young men...don't even think about dating or marriage until you have a job! Advice to young women...stay away from slackers! Couples can never obey God's command in Genesis 2:24-25 if the husband doesn't want to work. Couple's should never get married until they can obey the "leave, cleave, become one flesh" command.
In naming the animals, Adam was able to come to the conclusion that he needed someone. All the animals had mates, but Adam didn't. We need to get over our male pride and realize that we need our wives. They complete us. Getting rid of pride and giving honor to our wives could do wonders for our relationships.
I'm sorry. I'm slipping into pastor/teacher mode this morning...
The point is...get things right with God and you might be amazed at the impact it has on your marriage, every part of your marriage.