I've spent a few weeks bouncing from Kaiser to Kaiser visiting family and friends. This tree caught my attention while leaving the hospital one morning. It just screamed out, "There is always hope!".
I was prompted by your facebook message to read this and write about same. Mike...my husband and I have been married for 24 years, since 1985, in 1999 we seperated and went our seperate ways, 4 young children tore different directions each weekend and it ripped my heart out. For a moment I decided to date, have some fun and enjoy life...as I thought the grass would be greener on the other side, all the while my children hurt deeply and deep inside so did both Robert and I.
He met someone, moved in with her and I even got engaged to someone else. Then one day I was praying and singing and worshiping the Lord and he said LOUDLY, sit still....I thought sit still...what does that mean? So I decided to read the bible, pray feverishly and see what the Lord meant! I decided the Lord wanted me to stop what I was doing, call upon him and wait for him to answer! So I did just that, I stopped going out, I stopped dating and I stood still praying and asking the Lord for his answers! We were going through a bitter divorce, child custody battles, you name it, it was brutal to say the least! As I sat home on the weekends cooking and cleaning for the childrens return I would just pray and sing and wait on the Lord.
Then the night before our divorce was to be final I had a dream...in my dream a man dressed in a suit who I knew was from the church (but I had never seen before) seemed like an elder came to me and said the Lord wants you not to worry, your marriage will be restored, in June...do not worry about what happens tomorrow as today the Lord says your marriage will be restored. You see we really had nothing nice to say about each other at all...I said ok...i am listening lord. When I woke up I just prayed that this was all in his hands.
So I get to court and we had a child custody evaluation, scarey to say the least...and then proceeded to court...the judge kept custody the same and said today you will be granted your divorce (3 years later) she asked me just like you would ask if you were getting married, Denise is it your desire to be divorced as you are the petitioner today? And out of now where and from deep within my in one breathe I said, NO! The court room went silent...she start ruffling through the paperwork and said did you file this? And I said Yes and she said, hum..ok Mr. Mitchell is it your desire to be divorced this day, and he said YES! Then she ruffled through the paperwork some more and said you know I am going to hold this off until June...then we will meet again, thats all for today! We left and went our seperate ways...I was laughing the whole way home saying God sometimes you make me laugh...it struck something funny in me...
Three days later I came home from work and Robert was parked in front of my home...he walked up and hugged me and said Denise I still love you can we get back together...its amazing what God can do when you wait silently for his answers...people tell me, "I cant do that, I could never forgive her/him"....you know its amazing that after all we went through, even adultery, that we both have forgiven and forgotten...there is so much more to tell...but if anyone reads this I have to say the one question I am asked all the time is HOW DID YOU FORGIVE HIM...well its easy...when you look at the cross and what Jesus did for us...you can honestly do it for someone in return...the Lord can make wonderful things happen when you ask...and sit still and wait on him!
I love to hear stories like that! I think couples need to share this stuff for the benefit of other couples.
I'm spending a crazy busy week helping Kathy deal with her mother being sick and in the hospital with pneumonia. Even though it has been taxing and emotional I've enjoyed every moment of every day just being there with Kathy. I can't imagine experiencing any of life's ups or downs without my wonderful wife. Its hard to believe we have been on this incredible journey together for 24 years now. I've been a little too busy to blog this week but hopefully I'll get back into the swing of things next week.
"When you go out to war against your enemies, and see horses and chariots and an army larger than your own, you shall not be afraid of them, for the LORD your God is with you, who brought you up out of the land of Egypt. And when you draw near to the battle, the priest shall come forward and speak to the people and shall say to them, 'Hear, O Israel, today you are drawing near for battle against your enemies: let not your heart faint. Do not fear or panic or be in dread of them, for the LORD your God is he who goes with you to fight for you against your enemies, to give you the victory.' Deuteronomy 20:1-4